Divorce trouble at school

Pale faces, crying fits and ten-minute conversations that got out of hand. "It is very difficult not to get sucked into the divorce misery of parents."



  1. Pat on the back

    An extra task, a smile or a pat on the back can provide support or comfort. Extra attention is not necessarily in talking about the divorce.

  2. Parenting plan

    Request access to relevant passages in the parenting plan. If the child is with Mom from Monday to Wednesday, you know not to give it to Dad on Tuesday.

  3. Appointments in team

    Also make agreements as a team. For example, do you conduct two parent meetings when parents cannot go through one door? Are new partners allowed on a school trip?

  4. Impartial

    Keep both parents informed of their child's development. And remain impartial. Also arm yourself against bias by hearing stories that are not too personal. For example, dare to say, "I'm not the right person to talk about that."

  5. Accept

    Accept it when a student is (temporarily) less able to keep up.

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    Villa Pinedo, a foundation for children of divorced parents, has a New Understanding class on divorce that teachers can use to bring this topic up for discussion. You find that lesson here.